“You are who you are becoming.”
It’s a phrase I first spoke aloud over fifteen years ago. I’ve returned to it again and again, as a mantra, a lifeline, and a challenge.
We don’t become someone new overnight. Change happens slowly—through tiny, ordinary decisions. One day you wake up and realize you’ve become someone you barely recognize.
And yet, no matter where you are on your journey, you are never too far gone. The question isn’t whether you’re becoming someone. It’s who.
Losing Myself
As a child, I had a clear picture of who I wanted to be—kind, faithful, honest. But by the time I was 18, I was sitting at a funeral high from the night before, wearing a skirt that didn’t quite fit the moment, surrounded by familiar church faces and feeling like a total stranger to myself.
It didn’t happen all at once. It was a slow drift, a thousand tiny decisions, shaped by a false belief: that who I was deep down wouldn’t be affected by what I did on the outside.
But that belief was wrong. My choices were shaping me.
The Box
Eventually, after too many heartbreaks, too much numbing, and a late-night call that broke me, I fell apart. My best friend helped me take the first small step back toward myself.
We burned a literal box—photos, memories, pieces of a life I didn’t want anymore. That symbolic act didn’t fix everything, but it lightened the load. I began to remember the girl I had once been—and the life I wanted.
Damaged Goods?
For years, I believed I was too far gone. That no “good Christian guy” would ever want me because of my past. I tried to rewrite the story by finding someone “better” who could help me feel better about myself—but it didn’t work.
Then I met Dave.
When I finally shared everything, bracing for rejection, he looked at me and said:
“Everything in your past has led you to the person you are right now. And it doesn’t change how I see you.”
Those words changed my life. They echoed the truth I had been trying to believe. And sometimes we need to hear the truth in someone else’s voice before we can receive it for ourselves.
So let me say it to you:
🧡 You are not broken.
🧡 You are not damaged goods.
🧡 You are worthy. You are wanted. You belong.
What I’ve Learned
As I look back on my story, these are the truths I carry with me:
1. Your actions matter.
Who you are becoming is shaped by your daily decisions—your habits, relationships, and how you show up today.
2. You’re never too far gone.
You can always begin again. You are not beyond redemption.
3. You are worthy.
No matter how messy your story is, you belong. You are not alone.
We are all becoming someone. Whether we realize it or not. Whether we like it or not.
So take a moment today and ask yourself:
Who are you becoming?
And is that someone you actually want to be?
💬 I’d love to hear from you.
Does this resonate with your story? Are you in a season of becoming or rediscovering? Let’s talk in the comments or offline—or feel free to share this with someone who needs to hear it.